with Kezia Hall

Lessons I have learned after 2 1/2 years of business {The Boss Break}

CATEGORIES:  business Life

 

 

“Saayyyyyyy what? Business?! What happened to the cake, Kezia?” I hear you cry!!

 

Well Lovely, over the next eight weeks I am going to be running a special series all about running your own, real-life, girlboss business.

 

Business is something I have become insanely passionate about, especially women in business. I think it is one of the most empowering, creative and exciting things you can do.

 

It is also absolutely terrifying.

 

But more on that later.

 

Over the next eight weeks myself and fellow girl boss bestie Faith Dwight (photographer responsible for all my kickass photos) are going to be touching on all things involved in running a business, from self care, pricing, finding your tribe and so much more. 

 

Why? Faith and I, in our regular chats and meetups have realized that we girlbosses really need support. We need a tribe. We need to know we are not alone. So this series is to help us gather together as entrepreneurs or future entrepreneurs and know we are in this together.

 

And because of this, because there is SUCH a need for community, support, love and constructive feedback for creative businesswomen who maybe have a small team or are going it solo, we are planning something awesome. We want to host a business mastermind retreat for fellow creative female entrepreneurs late 2017 called…..

 

The Boss Break.

{Because lord, we need a freakin’ break.}

 

We had our own Boss Break the other week near Cambridge with just the two of us and boy, it was powerful, fun and super helpful. (And involved a bottle of something awesome and lots of dark chocolate of course!)

 

So if you are an existing business owner, a fellow coach, photographer, jeweler, artist, VA or other awesome biz owner, enter your details below to be the first to know about our business mastermind retreats coming at you soon.

 

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What I have learned after 2 1/2 years of business

 

Gosh, I am not quite sure where to begin. There are so many lessons I have learned, some beautiful ones and some painful ones. 

 

I have to say starting my own business has one of the biggest challenges of my life to date. I had no idea how deeply it would impact and challenge my identity, trust, and confidence. I mean I LOVE it with every ounce of my being, but it’s been harder and grittier than I thought.

 

1. It’s the biggest personal development journey of your life

Seriously, if someone had told me that starting a business was actually a ticket to one long road of personal development I am not sure I would have dived in. I used to think personal development was for people with too much time on their hands…

 

How wrong I was.

 

As a creative wellness entrepreneur, I have found that starting this business has challenged who I think I am. It’s challenged my belief about my skills, my future, my faith, my purpose in life. I mean for shizzle!?

 

It has caused me to sort out my relationship with money, it challenged my attitude to self-care (which was, ahem, nonexistent) and has caused me to go deep into who I am. Deep stuff – right?

 

But I think with a more personal based business, like this one (I am not building a huge corporation with 100 employees here), there is no hiding behind a logo or a website I very much am my business and so it makes sense that I have been shaped by it.

 

So if you’re thinking of starting a business or are in the trenches like me, be ready for this. Welcome it. Embrace it and own it.

 

Shake off any judgments you made about people who read the like of Tony Robbins or Bene Brown *ahem I have had to do this lots* and accept business is ALWAYS personal.

 

>>>> Running a business is a part of who you are, so invest in yourself.

Resource – Tony Robins ‘I am not your Guru’ on Netflix

 

2. Rich women can change the world.

This is a huge topic and lesson learned for me. Coming from a background as a fine artist working with drug addicts and vulnerable people in the community running a business, where one of the main aims is to make bank,  has taken a lot of adjusting to.

 

My beliefs around money have been the thing that has been the most challenging and still isThere’ses a part of me that has felt bad or dirty or less spiritual about wanting to earn lots of money. I am already blessed beyond measure, I know that. I am that 1% with education, shelter, clean water earning more than a few dollars a day. I have all I need – truly.

 

Yet I run a business so I can be wealthy in all ways, especially financial wealth. Thats the crux of running a business and if you’re uncomfortable with that then THAT is what you need to work on ASAP. 

 

The reality is that money is neither good or bad but it provides choices and choice is a part of freedom. 

 

I am no longer ashamed about wanting to earn money and lots of it because I know when money is in my hands it will be poured into beautiful things. My health, my family, my community, my city and into all the dreams I have in regards to running charities and funding programs working with vulnerable women in my nation.

 

I believe as women rise up in ALL areas the world will change. For too long we have been quiet and oppressed and women learning to create wealth and be ok with being rich (in a way that is aligned with their unique purpose – we are all different) is an important part of this.

 

>>> Money is powerful and creates choice and when compassionate women have more it beautiful things will happen.

Resources: Denise Duffield Thomas – AKA The Lucky Bitch & Tony Robbins book Money – Master the Game

 

3. You need to know WHY you’re doing it

You need to know why on earth you are doing this. 

 

Why are you spending hours setting up blogs and websites. Why are you investing money in designers or materials? Why are you working 12 hours days sometimes or saying no to social things and feeling like a hermit.

 

Now I don’t want to glorify the idea of hustling crazy hard, I believe the whole point of running a business is to enjoy your LIFE and not be workaholic but reality check, it takes a lot of work to create something from nothing. So in order to stay motivated and focused you need to know why you are doing it, beyond the whole money thing.

 

Sure I said before money is important but money is not the main thing. The purpose behind your business is engine room. the ‘why’ is what will wake up, it will be your daily energy and motivation when you feel stuck.

 

For me I have learned to be crystal clear on why I am running Super Naturally Healthy. Its because I believe every single person on this planet is created to live in full divine, energised and beautiful health. Its because I know we can all heal if we know how to partner with that process (whether natural or miraculous and really is there a difference?)  and because I want our culture to shift and the correct nutritional information to be shared. And on and on…..I have so many whys and they are the thing that motivates me to be standing at my desk by 9am every darn day (except weekends of course because #ihavealife) 

 

>>>> The WHY behind your business is where the magic happens and energy comes from

Resource: Simon Sinek’s TED talk 

 

 

 

4. Business DOES NOT have to lead to burn out…..but it often does #boundaries

There is this idea that running a business means you become workaholic who neglects your health, family, life, and friends. That you become obsessed with making money and you’re ‘hustling’ all the time, stressed with nothing else to talk about apart from ‘how business is going’ (dull).

 

That you live off of coffee and sugar and are always stressed out your freakin nut.

 

Confession – I am a recovering workaholic, I love coffee and I can become a hermit, always working quite easily. I have come close to burn out in doing all this but thankfully I have known I am on that wayward path before I reach the pit in the road.

 

But I have learned that to avoid burn out, to run a business with joy, trust and peace is a fight. Its a choice I have to choose daily. It’s a mindset I have to constantly work on as its SO easy to think worker harder means more success, more peace and more money.

 

So really what  I am saying is that boundaries are KEY. I know, sexy right? 

 

This lesson is a real and raw one for me as its one I have struggled with.  Boundaries basically means how you’re managing your energy, health, relationships and life. If you have no boundaries then things ‘happen’ to you, you play victim and you ‘just have to or had no choice’. Bullshit – we always have a choice and in running this business I have come face to face with my own victim based verbal vomit.

 

If you have no boundaries you burn out. Spiritually, emotionally and by gum, physically (*cough* adrenal dysfunction!)

 

>>> Boundaries make your LIFE & business flourish – so make sure you have some!

ResourcesBoundaries by Henry Cloud & John Townsends or all of Bene Browns books…. in an round about way……. well really not directly related at all but just read them ok? You will thank me later.

 

5. Running a business is like having sex….no really it is!

I have never felt as vulnerable and exposed as I have done running this business. Honestly, I would say it has been on the level as having sex with Joe (husband) for the first time. THAT vulnerable, that exposing….and *cough* that awesome 😉

 

Doing anything creative is vulnerable as heck.

 

But seriously it takes courage to put your ideas, your passions, and skills out into the world in the form of a business and then ask people to invest in it. 

 

So what makes for good sex, aside from the logistics of course? 😉 Well, there are many things but in my opinion one of the BIGGEST things is trust and so in business this means you need

  1. to trust yourself
  2. have a handful of people who are WITH you heart and soul and trust your idea/skills
  3. trust the journey and god in you

 

Sex can be really awesome and so fruitful (hello babies/bliss) or it can also be damaging, destructive and down right awful and business is the same. It has the potential to provide so much joy, fun and fruit but it can also be destructive.

 

That’s where trust comes in.

 

So for me I have needed a team of cheerleaders, people like Joe (husband/man of dreams), my sister who now works with me, my parents and people like Faith fellow Boss Break host or Laura who I run a podcast with, have been those people who trust I can do this. They trust in my skill, my passion, my ability to do this and some days I have to lean on their faith in me because mine has gone down the drain.

 

Annnnnd I have needed to trust myself and invest in my skills so I can be confident in what I do. Invest in skilled designers, website developers etc to make it totally legit. Trust in myself to invest in courses, coaches, mentors and training.

 

And finally also trusting in the process, taking time to be grateful and present in the moment. For me it has taught me too much about trusting god, trusting him in me and with me in all things.

 

Trust that you CAN do this, trust it will grow, trust what a select group of intimate friends/family say. Trust that you can do hard things. Trust the process.

 

Side note – I think I will talk about sex more often….

 

>>>> Business is like sex. Everyone should be doing it – hahaha!!

Resource: Daring Great by Bene Brown

 

 

So lovely those are my 5 lessons I have learned so far and seriously I have learned so many more, from how to create a website, how to create customer service systems and create profit loss statements but lets leave it this for now.

 

And make sure you sign up below to be the first to know about The Boss Break – mastermind retreat for creative girl bosses. Otherwise, see you next week for part 2 of the Boss Break series!!!

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